Now You Can Stop Your Break Up, Divorce or Lovers Rejection...Even If Your Situation Seems Hopeless!
I created this site because I wanted to acknowledge that poems and art can help heal your broken heart and help you move on from the sadness of breaking apart. But when you feel like someone is your soul-mate, and you feel so positive you are meant to be a couple, is it possible to get back together and make it work? I recently found a great e-book about this very subject. It's called The Magic of Making Up and not only does it help couples get back together, it is an excellent relationship resource.
From this e-book I would like to share with you three of the secrets to help you see if your ex might be receptive to getting back together.
Keep the Lines of Communication Open
You need to re-open the communication lines as soon as possible. After a relationship ends there is often a period where interactions between you both will be frosty or even non-existent. It's important to get over that as quickly as possible and get back to the point where you can be completely comfortable in each other’s company again. The easiest way to do this is in a normal way through mutual friendships, and friends are generally keen to help out in these situations. Once you get back to the point where you can communicate easily, the whole process becomes much easier. The Magic of Making Up outlines many ways to help communication become natural again.
As the e-book says, the best thing you can do initially to get the talk flowing again is NOT talk about the past, your breakup, or anything serious which might put pressure on the situation. There will be a time when those things can be discussed, but first, take the time to get comfortable with each other again.
How to Broach the Subject of Getting Back Together
At some point, you will need to test the waters and see if there is a chance of winning back your ex. Light flirting will give help you receive signals from your ex. If he or she seems receptive, then give it a shot. If you're not sure how to test this out, The Magic of Making Up has many strategies to help you feel confident and comfortable.
This can be really scary, but you need to know if you are wasting your time. The world is full of ex-couples who spend a lot of time in each other’s company, both wanting to get back together but they still live apart. Why? Because no-one is prepared to take the plunge and ask if there’s a chance things could work again. The TV show “Friends” managed to spin this exact storyline out for 10 years! Are you prepared to wait around for 10 years not knowing whether your ex is still interested in you or not?
It’s also important to realize that your partner is not likely to say “oh thank goodness” and fall back into your arms the first time you broach the subject. It could happen, but you are more likely to get either a “not a chance” response, or a non-committal response. Either is fine. If there is no chance, then you have saved yourself a lot of chasing someone who is never going to be interested again. If they respond they are uncertain - then there is hope!
SHOW, Don’t Tell ...
One of the classic mistakes is to repeatedly tell your ex how you will be better in the future. It’s a mistake because it appears desperate, which is a turn-off. Instead of talking about what you will do, just start doing it. For example, if your ex wanted you to be more open, be open and caring in your actions. Give a gift, extend an olive branch. In other words, show action, not words.
Last time you were together, something went wrong. You shouldn’t try to brush that under the carpet. Actually acknowledge it, as The Magic of Making Up suggests, then address it and show how you will make it better. When problems of the past arise again, handle them in a new way. For example, if you had a habit of over-reacting in the past, then when something troublesome happens, try to shrug it off. You want your ex to notice your changes. But these changes must be sincere and genuine. If it is just a show to get your ex back, your motivations will be transparent to your ex and you could do more damage than good.
I hope these tips are a beginning for you to either move on or make a determined effort to win back your ex, rather than languish in sadness. You CAN win back your ex’s heart and make sure your relationship is stronger than ever. There are many real-life examples on The Magic of Making Up site and I am certain this e-book will help mend relationships that are meant to be.
As always, I wish you the best of luck, in love and happiness.